Allay Counselling

Counselling offered



I have experience in helping clients with the following issues:Counselling and Therapy Market Harborough

Anxiety Trauma
Anger Management Difficult Life Events
Feelings of Guilt or Shame Childhood experiences
ME / Chronic Fatigue Syndome Low Self Worth / Confidence
Relationship Difficulties Sexual / Physical Abuse
Depression Bereavement
Stress Loss


 As an Integrative counsellor I may use a variety of approaches to help my clients, these include:


 (click on the tabs below for more details on the approaches)


Person Centered Therapy

Person Centred Therapy

The person-centred approach maintains that three core conditions provide a climate conducive to growth and therapeutic change. They contrast starkly with those conditions believed to be responsible for psychological disturbance. The core conditions are:

•    Unconditional positive regardDepression-Anxiety-Therapy
•    Empathic understanding
•    Congruence

‘Unconditional positive regard means that the counsellor accepts the client unconditionally and non-judgementally. The client is free to explore all thoughts and feelings, positive or negative, without danger of rejection or condemnation. Empathic understanding means that the counsellor accurately understands the client’s thoughts, feelings, and meanings from the client’s own perspective.  Finally, congruence means that the counsellor is authentic and genuine. Together, these three core conditions are believed to enable the client to develop and grow in their own way, to strengthen and expand their own identity and to become the person that they ‘really’ are independently of the pressures of others to act or think in particular ways.

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT)

CBT-COUNSELLING-THERAPYCognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)

CBT is a talking therapy that can help you manage your problems by changing the way you think and behave. It cannot remove your problems, but can help you manage them in a more positive way by encouraging you to examine how your actions can affect how you think and feel.

Talking and changing your behaviour can change how you think (cognitive) and what you do (behaviour). This can make you feel better about life.

CBT works by helping you make sense of overwhelming problems by breaking them down into smaller parts. Your thoughts, feelings, physical sensations and actions are interconnected, often trapping you in a negative spiral. CBT helps you stop these negative cycles. It aims to break down factors that are making you feel bad, anxious or scared so that they are more manageable. It can show you how to change these negative patterns to improve the way you feel.

Together with the therapist you will explore what your problems are and develop a plan for tackling them. You will learn a set of principles that you can put into place whenever you need to. You may find them useful long after you have left therapy.

CBT may focus on what is going on in the present rather than the past. However, the therapy may also look at your past and how your past experiences impact on how you interpret the world now.

Transactional Analysis

Transactional AnalysisTransactional Analysis

Transactional Analysis (or TA as it is often called) is based on two notions, first that we have three parts or 'ego-states' to our 'personality, and secondly that these converse with one another in 'transactions' (hence the name). TA is a very common model used in therapy and there is a great deal written about it. We each have internal models of parents, children and also adults, and we use these roles with one another in our relationships.

We even do it with ourselves, in our internal conversations. When two people communicate, each exchange is a transaction. Many of our problems come from transactions which are unsuccessful. Complementary transactions occur when both people are at the same level (Parent talking to Parent, etc.). Here, both are often thinking in the same way and communication is easier. Problems usually occur in crossed transactions, where each is talking to a different level.

The parent is either nurturing or controlling, and often speaks to the child, who is either adaptive or ‘natural’ in their response. When both people talk as a Parent to the other’s Child, their wires get crossed and conflict results.

The ideal line of communication is the mature and rational Adult-Adult relationship.

Psychodynamic Therapy

Psychodynamic Therapy

This approach stresses the importance of the unconscious and past experience and how they affect current behaviour.  The client is encouraged to talk about childhood relationships with parents and other significant people.

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Emphasis is made to ensure that the therapeutic environment is conducive to self expression and trust, with the emphasis placed on the relationship between client and therapist.

Psychodynamic therapy uses the basic assumption that everyone has an unconscious mind (the subconscious), and that feelings held in the unconscious mind are often too painful to be faced. Therefore, we come up with defences to protect us knowing about these painful feelings. An example of one of these defences is called denial, the therapy assumes that these defences have gone wrong and are causing more harm than good.

It tries to unravel them, as once again, it is assumed that once you are aware of what is really going on in your mind the feelings will not be as painful. 

Psychodynamic therapy is a general name for therapeutic approaches which try to get the patient to bring to the surface their true feelings, so that they can experience them and understand them.



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